TheMindComplex is a mission driven blog, advocating for the importance of self awareness, pursuit of the truth, the aspiration to do the highest good and aspire for righteousness so as to make ourselves more fulfilled, happy and spread more good vibes into the world. It is authored and published by me: Dominic Nyabuto.
WHO THE HELL ARE YOU AND WHY SHOULD I TAKE YOU SERIOUSLY?
Blogger | Engineer in Training | Thinker | Visionary | Life Enthusiast
I’m just a guy who reads a lot of books and spends a lot of time on the internet reading about psychology. The trick is; don’t take me too seriously (unlike what my face says), unless you want to, of course. But the point is to think for yourself, I write what I write to guide you, not to think for you. If you like some of the things I say, great. If not, that’s fine too.
I’m 23 years old. Born and raised in Kenya. Currently pursuing a degree in B.Sc in Mechanical Engineering (physics is my forte, that is besides psychology, of course) in Kenyatta University. I started blogging about 2 years ago (2018) with the intention of making the world a less shitty place. But I would also be lying if I didn’t say that I started it as a means of getting extra cash here and there. Or that I was trying to capitalize on the fact that my friends told me I give good advice and would make one hell of a motivational speaker one day.
SO, WHY DO YOU WRITE ABOUT ALL THESE STUFF?
I write on these topics and discussions because I believe they are of more importance than anything else in our lives. If experience has taught me anything (and believe me I have been through some rough shit), it’s that the lack of self-awareness and emotional maturity is a recipe for disaster. This is the basis but this blog is generally about trying to understand the complexity of the human mind and how we think. That is why I advocate for putting more urgency and emphasize on these stuff.
Can you imagine how much easier and happier life would be if everyone went around being true to who they are, saying what they mean, accepting others for who they are without judgement, being emotionally mature and being mindful of themselves and the society around them?
HOW WOULD YOU SUMMARIZE YOUR PHILOSOPHY?
I can’t really say that what I advocate for is a philosophy, maybe a philosophy-ish. What I advocate for is simply self awareness, the search for the truth (wherever it takes you) and dedicating your life for the pursuit of the highest good and righteousness because happiness isn’t all that life is about.
We are all so full of these complexities that differ from everyone else’s. That is why it’s hard for us to get along or even accept one another because we all want other people to be like us, or even worse, we want to be like other people. This is because we are all under this ill informed and preconceived notion that there is a one way to be. But people be different y’ll.
The pursuit of happiness in someone else or something is selfish and catastrophic. If you don’t know who you are, what you desire, what your dreams are, and fully accept yourself in both your strength and weaknesses with a consistent effort of always trying to be your best self, then, I believe, you won’t be happy.
Being mindful is a skill that needs to be owned. Being mindful is being able to pay attention to what you are feeling, what the people around you are feeling and not judging any of it. Does this mean you shouldn’t criticize yourself or others? No. You should criticize people, you should allow others to criticize you, that is how people grow, that is how you know where you are going wrong and what its gonna take to change that.
You also need to be very emotionally mature, you can’t let every negative comment, people or setbacks screw you up. Emotional intelligence isn’t a measure of intelligence on its own, it’s a quality of showing how well you are equipped to handle your emotions, both positive ones and the negative ones.
Life and love is all about being teachable. We are all messed up in so many ways, and the fact that we get along regardless of that is astonishing in its own accord. No one is perfectly made for anyone, perfect/great things are not found, they are made.
Money can’t buy happiness, love can’t buy you happiness, neither can success.
The biggest joys in life come from the million little things.
THIS IS A BIG SITE, WHERE SHOULD I START?
I recommend starting with each of the articles on the Home Page.
WHY DID YOU START THIS SITE?
I started blogging back in 2018, I was in my second year of engineering school. I was at my girl’s place when the idea dawned on me. My motivation for starting out then was affiliate marketing and just the “making money online” part of it. I was excited about it till I realized how sad life can be when money is your sole motivator in life. I ended up losing focus and always switching between strategies because I wasn’t really into that.
I remember switching between blogging about tech (am a geeky tech guy too FYI) and lifestyle. I was lost in all of this till I started getting these awesome comments on my articles. All of them were from my friends by the way (I barely had any real traffic on the site by then). They were all about how good my relationship articles and emotional intelligence blogs were.
So there I was, getting recognized for these articles based on my life experiences. That is when I realized that all the bad shit and messy relationships I had gone through were leading me to this. Nothing has ever given me half as much joy as writing about these topics.
I have seen families break up, friendships fall apart, people losing their jobs recklessly, addictions that led to death and hospitalizations, toxic couples that were convinced they were soul mates only to end up disappointed after 6 years…….the list is endless. But the major struggle has always been the meaning and purpose of life, because this is the question that will cover multitudes of ‘sins’ and failures.
After recognizing these patterns, I started The Mind Complex, the site that you are on right now, to guide everyone towards “the magic beans” that I had stumbled upon.
The Mind Complex is a mission driven blog, advocating for the importance of self awareness, pursuit of the truth and the aspiration to do the highest good and aspire for righteousness so as to make ourselves more fulfilled, happy and spread more good vibes into the world.
DO YOU HAVE A DEGREE IN PSYCHOLOGY? SHOULDN’T YOU HAVE ONE?
No and no. That’s why I told you, the trick is to not take me seriously.
But answer me this, do all parents have degrees in psychology that make them good at advising and nurturing their children?
Experience is the best teacher. What I write is solely based on my own experiences and observations from other people’s lives and the society in general. But before I write anything I always do my due diligence to make sure that my readers get the most accurate information, I can’t be a blind man leading the blind now can I. All articles are researched on and not based on my own opinions. All scientific facts and proven theories are cited/libked in each article.
All the content in this site is written after thorough research (and a ton of coffee). That’s why you will find a lot of footnotes, references and citations at the bottom of the articles, that is to tell you that what you just read was an awesome article but you can also go check out the sources and come and tell me how awesome the article was too.
SO HOW DID YOU LEARN ABOUT ALL THIS STUFF?
That’s pretty simple, I have been living.
- Ever since I was a kid, I have always been intrigued with how things work. I guess that is why I fell in love with engineering. I have always been that curious kid who asked questions all the damn time. When my friends wanted their parents to get them toys to play with, I wanted to be bought toys for dismantling and reverse engineering them, needless to say they all ended up broken. Years later, I have come to have this passion for understanding people. I spend a lot of my social interactions reading people, sometimes its creepy, I know, don’t judge me. It’s a passion of mine you might say. That is why I have gotten so good at it, I have been practicing.
- When I was 18 years old I lost my mom, and when I was 21 years old I lost my sister. Losing the people you love is one of the hardest things you will ever go through in life. After going through that, I came to realize how the education system and society in general doesn’t prepare us for the most challenging things in life. We end up depending on just our parents and family to guide us, who, mind you, are not that good at helping you either. That is why I decided to always educate myself on these topics. I have spent the past few years scouring the internet for any helpful information on how to face these challenges. The summary of all the answers I found are what this blog is based on.
- I read a lot of books, articles and watch a lot of videos on these topics. If you were to go through my youtube history you would be surprised at how many psychology and philosophy based vlogs I watch in a single day. My friends say am obsessed, but who knows. I have read tons of books that have inspired my work for a long time now and I really think that everyone should read them, they are very enlightening and insightful.
- When I started blogging, I realized that I should be aware of the science out there, so I spend a lot of time studying the academic research on things such as self consciousness, personality psychology, behavioral sciences and development psychology. I decided that if people are going to listen to me, I should be well-informed on a lot of the current research in this field.
Books That Inspire My Work
YOUR ARTICLES ARE A MOUTHFUL, YOU TAKE LIFE TOO SERIOUSLY. WHAT’S YOUR PROBLEM, MAN?
Human beings are complicated and complex. It’s a big lie to think that just chilling and being easy is gonna make you happy. Most people say that thinking too much about happiness is a sure fire way to being unhappy. They have a point, but it’s also naive to avoid “thinking” about what will make you happy just because you think it will make you overthink the entire thing. You see what I’m saying.
You’re going to pay a price for every bloody thing you do and everything you didn’t do. You don’t get to choose to not pay a price. You get to choose which poison you’re going to take. That’s it.-Jordan B. Peterson
Ignorance isn’t bliss, just because you are not aware of what may affect you doesn’t make it disappear. You do not get to choose what may or may not affect you by avoiding it, No! It will affect you either way, its only when you get crushed that you will see it was always there the entire time, ignorance is not bliss at all, its an escape from reality.
HOW CAN I GET NOTIFIED WHEN YOU PUBLISH MORE ARTICLES?
Pretty simple, I publish at least 3 new articles every week. You can get notified when I publish them by simply joining my mailing list down below (you can unsubscribe at anytime, no strings attached).
THAT WAS QUITE A LOT. CAN I GO NOW?
Yes, yes you can go now…….to my Home Page and start reading my articles, I mean you didn’t just go through all this just to end up getting out with nothing but my ‘short’ story.
Oh, and please share all the content on this site as much as you want, it could help someone you love, you never know – the butterfly effect is real. All the social share icons can be found on the bottom of each page and article. Bye now ?.